Language of Love

Today at lunch My friend showed another friend this thing she was doing for a class. It was a language of love test and I wanted to take it so I did despite her unreasonable protest. My highest two scores to her surprise were physical contact and words of affirmation. If you know me I tend to be the person who hates physical contact and on account of my never having a boyfriend I really don't tend to come off as a person who would score a nine in that category. After briefly thinking about it I knew why I had scored what I did and explained it to her.

First physical contact. I do not like to be touched and in the hallways if I can avoid the crowds I absolutely will however, I VALUE it the most. This doesn't mean I only care about physical contact in a relationship rather I value it more because I allow it less. Bad physical contact really makes me angry while a hug when I am struggling with something really does make me feel better and that means a LOT to me. 

Words of affirmation are something that as an older sibling I feel really deprived of. When I was little my parents put so much pressure on me to be perfect and because they care so much they focused on my defects in hopes of correcting them instead of encouraging me in the way I needed. This is true today. If in guard for example my director is complimenting everyone but me on the choreography I tend to disconnect and give less than my best because what is the point really. When friends of mine criticize my work in our show I don't get offended but it really does mean a lot so I become discouraged. Maybe I just overanalyze things but THAT really bothers me. So words of affirmation because I care that my loved ones view me with the same respect that I view them. 

The topic really is interesting and I had a few of my friends take the quiz along with the two I mentioned earlier to be able to better understand them. Most of them got quality time which makes sense because they tend to want to go places and do things with their friends all the time. The others got words of affirmation which is nice to know just because I really could work on complimenting them more in general especially if I see they are having a bad day. If anyone wants to take this google 5 languages of love test and it should be one of the first things to pop up.